The weather outside is changing and your baby bump is growing fast, so what on earth are you going to wear today? Changing seasons, changing body, trying to get dressed, oh my! Transitional style may sound tricky..
"Rules schmules" is our usual statement on fashion rules. Do what makes you feel fabulous. Different people have different styles and we love that. And, that being said, dressing while pregnant can be a challenge. Sure, you love the bump, but, damn, what about those other lumps and bumps? How do you dress to flatter the bump and hide any other bumps that you might not be as enamored of?
Guidelines, rules, whatever. Here they are:
Rule # 1: You're Doing It Right
First rule, remember, you are doing this right. You are making a human, it's exhausting in so many ways. Step away from anything and anyone who makes you feel anything but good.
The odds that you'll be able to look in the mirror with any perspective are pretty slim. It's not unusual to experience a little body dysmorphia when your body is being morphed from within!
So set aside some time to learn what it is that makes you look and feel good in this new and amazing and every changing body?
Bring a friend or shop somewhere where you can trust the folks looking in the mirror with you. It's worth taking a little more time than usual to shop- you are learning how to dress all over again. Shopping online?? When the clothes arrive, grab a friend, touch base with the store if questions that you have about size or fit.
# 2 Start Here: Go-To Basics
When you're not feeling at your best, your closet is smaller and morning sickness has got you down, we always recommend starting with go-to basics: a well fitting pair of jeans and a few tops-either flowy or fitted-both will work and both will make you look good, and manage all manner of lumps.
Go with the flow-find a flowy top like the Penny Pleat Back that fits your shoulders(they aren't growing) glides over the belly and hips while also hiding the bum. Try a First Trimester French Tuck-this QE trick has been called a Front Tuck for years here at Mom's the Word by our very own QEs.
Then try a more fitted top like the Original Cinched Top for cotton comfort with ruching to help hide the things we weren't thrilled with before and certainly aren't super thrilled about right now. (In other words, do people wear this top waaay beyond the bump? All the time! Back fat? Muffin top? Where? None here!)
# 3 Lean In: Learn to Love your Body
Hate your hips, but at least you have a waist? Um..yeah, make that had a waist. Move it on up. Wear empire waist tops and dresses. Maxi's, like the Angelina, are stellar. If you feel bottom heavy, grab a maxi with an open neckline and prepare to accept the compliments. We're big on really drawing the eye up and away from the hips. Just anther tip that will serve you well for years to come.
Something with drape in the front, a great print and a little more shape to the back is a perennial favorite here. Why?
A good print camouflages the bumps that aren't a baby, the drape doesn't grab your bum, and you get to show off your waistline in back. Good. Done. Go!
Wearing a big flowing piece may feel like a good bet, but giving a nod to I've got a body under here" seems to be where most of our clients feel best. So, grab a sash or a belt and rock the bump. (This is a great way to let people know that you're pregnant-because people who aren't pregnant don't wear their belts under their bust!)
Do not look at the body parts that you hated before you were pregnant. Odds are, you will only hate them more while pregnant, and they will not magically disappear, but thankfully...
#4 Remember: It's All About that Bump
Time to change your perspective. It's all anyone else is really looking at anyhow, so dress it up grand, whatever that means to you. A baby bump can be a good balance sometimes, as it becomes everyone's focal point as it grows. You might as well get used to it now.
No matter how cute you are, all eyes will go to the baby first. This is your new life. It ain't about you any more. And it definitely is not about your butt:) Plus, you're a smart mama, you nailed Rule # 1 and found a really good pair of jeans.
Hint for the beyond the bump/trip back down: those jeans? You'll be wearing them after delivery and that is a-okay too.
One dress that has been, literally, to an Inaugural Ball and to the beach; from the red carpet to so many weddings and showers that we lost count a long time ago. It has been paired with everything from Louboutins to flip flops, from diamonds to dusters.
Actor Saffron Burrows paired it with a jacket at the Golden Globes.
Fashion blogger Irina Bond of Bond Girl Glam styled it cozy.
(Images of Irina by Bleudog Fotography)
Michele rocked it at 8 months.
Yvonne's mama wears it way beyond the bump, layered under a sweater. It makes mom's happy every day. It is one of those styles that can be dressed up or down and looks good on every body type. And we love that.
You can wear it high in front, low in back for an elegant look, flip it around-different dress!
It is THE dress to wear, where ever life takes you. Nailed it.
Where are you going? Go there in ease and style. Toss on the Madison, and go live that life, accepting the compliments all the way!
Pregnant? Getting dressed every morning with fewer and fewer things to wear? Okay, the truth? All women should have a denim jacket. And dressing for two means that you REALLY should have a denim jacket. It is a classic. It will always serve you well. Throw it over a white tank and black jeans with a cool necklace or scarf and you are done. If you don't have one already, do yourself a favor-get one now, and never give it up. Some years it may live in the back of the closet, but you will always find it, like an old friend, and be glad to have it in your life. Added bonus, it will take anything and everything from night to day. And, when you're pregnant and your closet options seem to be shrinking every day, voila, that dress for the wedding...
just turned into an every day dress, not a "wear-me-once" piece. Yay!
When looking for the right one for your pregnant silhouette be sure that it does not hit you much below your natural waistline. You remember that, right? Well, it's still there, and it deserves a little attention. Your jacket should hit it, or above, in back. Something that hits mid-butt will successfully be drawing attention in a not-good way-even if you've got a good butt-to your butt and make you look wider-NOT what you want!
Want to have even more fun? Head over to your local craft store and throw some studs on your $88 jacket and emulate this fabulous one by Saint Laurent.
Subtle and brilliant. (and $1600)
Now, go on, and rock it mama!
Jeans matter, therefore, maternity jeans matter, dare we say, twice as much?
We are obsessed with fashion and making women feel fabulous, and one cannot possibly do that today without being obsessed with denim. Emily, our buyer, is obsessed with making sure that we have a tons of comfortable bottoms to choose from.
Finding a few good, solid pairs of jeans makes a huge difference to the way you walk into a room. Just our opinion, but since countless women have walked out of the shop in their new jeans, 3" taller than when they walked in, that opinion is based on experience. Okay. Maybe not 3" taller, but definitely taller. And happier.
Where to begin? Start with a good basic. This is our single most popular primary pair, which doesn't mean that it's everyone's first, it's just insanely soft, skinny and comfy, and a good, basic everyday wash.
Okay, we lied, there are two popular pairs. Most moms do the black shadow as well, because, well, when they put one pair on, and make some comment along the lines of "OMG! These are amazing." they realize that one pair is not enough, and grabbing the same amazement in black is just their next move.
So, if you are one of those people who will only rock a basic skinny, then grab a couple of them. You will not regret it. You will wear them as many times in the course of just one pregnancy as you wear one pair for years not pregnant.
And then there's the trip back down, which these are all perfect for. Grab a belt and you're good to go for the year after delivery- which is what a mom of 3 advised a friend to plan on. The friend was much relieved. She actually came in to buy a new pair of our jeans with her 3 month old, and she is hardy the first one to do that.
An IMPORTANT note on FIT: Get jeans that fit the way you like your jeans to fit before you were pregnant. REMEMBER-denim relaxes out, you want jeans that make your butt look good, not saggy! This does not mean that you should buy jeans that feel painted on, or that don't feel comfortable. It just means that you should not buy the next size up because you're pregnant-that's what those stretchy side panels are for!
Talk to the person fitting you, ask them for their advise, different jeans do relax out differently, and the person helping you should have that information. Then, listen to your mom gut, and get the ones that feel best to you. This is a good lesson that will serve you well in parenting-collect all the info, know what the experts say and then listen to your gut. There is not a right or wrong, just doing the best that you can with a changing situation-in this case, your body. If your jeans get too tight, save them for the trip back down. Don't beat yourself up or stress out.
Feeling too tall? Tuck them into a pair of boots or booties, or, really, ankle length is never bad, and particularly when pregnant, if you still have your ankles? Celebrate them! Show them off! Got cankles? Hello booties.
Feeling short? Please do not buy clothes, denim or otherwise, based on length. But clothes that fit, and then meet your local dry cleaner-they can hem with ease if you want a hem.
Or, no matter what your height, emulate Gwen Stefani- cuff 'em!
Jeans matter. Take care of mama and spend the time and money that you can manage getting jeans that rock the bum and the bump. You're worth it.